TRANSACTIONAL THINKING: AN IMPORTANT RED FLAG
Bravo, Tim Denning.
Your article regarding transactional thinking points to a huge red flag for narcissistic behavior, which seems to be the real plague of our time.
While you mention generosity, I might use empathy or the ability to be compassionate with others. Some folks don't recognize generosity, especially if wounded as a narc and survivors are deeply wounded. Empaths are often abuse survivors and have to as do I maintain strong boundaries. We DO acquire "eyes in the back of our head" and the ability to feel energies.
An aside. This book about extreme childhood abandoment and abuse changed my life. The author eventually became a creator of herb tinctures and an author of her own philosophy. I found it fascinating and to say mom was a narcissist, malignant, says too little.
Forgive me if using the term narcissism seems to objectify. Most of the literature on developmental disorders orders calls it bluntly narcissism. And as some say, it may be seen as a continuum: we all have a bit and need to be aware, noticing when WE feel the need to dominate and control (cornerstones of narcissistic behavior) while others say having good boundaries and strong self-assertion is NOT narcissistic.
Glad you popped up as I was looking for a simple clear share. I recommend Dr. Les Carter on YT and his Surviving Narcissism videos for some fuel. He has saved my life from a covert narc.
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